Pastoral Care Committee: 2019 Committee Report
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Whenever we begin the new year with new committee members the meeting community is reapportioned among current pastoral care members in the hope of providing all members and attenders with attention and a resource in times of need. Please feel free to contact any pastoral care committee member if they can be of aid to those seeking membership, planning a wedding, or facing other life events. Telephone & e-mail address of your member may be found in the directory.
The purpose of the Pastoral Care Committee of Third Haven Monthly Meeting is to provide and maintain a caring meeting community. We welcome questions and requests for assistance from members and attenders.
Attenders are invited to request membership with the meeting, as they are led to make a commitment to the pursuit of spiritual enlightenment and growth in the manner of Friends. The meeting correspondingly commits to support the member in that pursuit. Faith and Practice, a publication of the Philadelphia Yearly Meeting (PYM), details the meaning of membership. Copies are available from the Third Haven Library, located in the Brick Meeting House.
The Pastoral Care Committee invites members and attenders to make use of CLEARNESS COMMITTEES, not only for requests for membership and marriage/union under the care of the Meeting, but for support during times of duress. Alone, or in relationship with others, we sometimes have disquiet and need help discerning the genuine nature of our feelings so that we can reach resolution with ourselves and/or others. Such a committee neither gives advice nor attempts to solve anyone's problem(s). Clearness is intended to remove encumbrances to insight, allowing one to move forward. The process is confidential. A request from a member or attender requires only a note or call to the Clerk of the Pastoral Care Committee.
Anyone requesting a Clearness Committee is encouraged to suggest the names of the Pastoral Care Committee members who might serve on the committee. It is also appropriate to prepare notes stating the issue or question and its background. Faith and Practice serves as a guide to the clearness process. Additional resources are available in the Third Haven Library. Two additional references are Patricia Loring's Pendle Hill Pamphlet, Spiritual Discernment: the context and goal of clearness committees and Parker Palmer's description.
Friends are reminded to "make provisions for the settlement of all outward affairs, while in health so that others may not be burdened and so that one may be freed to live more fully in the Truth". See Faith and Practice, 2018, pp 219-222. Each Friend has the responsibility to settle outward affairs, in good order, and make clear his or her memorial intentions and directions, so as to lighten the burden on family and Friends, at the time of her or his death.
This Memorial Intentions form is intended to help Third Haven Friends Meeting and your designated Personal Representative carry out your intentions and directions at the time of your death, with regard to a memorial service, under the care of the Meeting, burial, grave marker, plaque and any other of your intentions and directions. As of December 31, 2019, Third Haven Friends Meeting will no longer allow casket burials in the Meeting Burial Grounds.
This form can be a great help to those who will miss us when we are gone. A member of the Pastoral Care Committee can help you through the process of completing this form, as well as identifying sites for burial site, grave marker and/or plaque in the Meeting burial grounds. It will be placed in a confidential file until it is needed: Memorial Intentions form (PDF version), Memorial Intentions form (WORD version).
Minute about Joys & Concerns, 11/9/14:
Our weekly practice of sharing Joys and Concerns at the end of meeting for worship is one way in which our community of Friends becomes aware of important developments in the lives of our members and attenders. However, Overseers recently began discussing a concern of our own about the potential for invading the privacy of those we mention during Joys and Concerns. How do we balance our wish to reach out to members and attenders who are having a health crisis, for instance, with that person's right to confidentiality?
Overseers urge that before sharing information about a member or attender, that we have a discussion with that person about what he or she would like communicated in the public arena of our meeting. Sometimes it might be a simple wish to be held in the light. We are a caring community and we welcome the opportunity to be able to offer comfort or assistance. Part of that caring is making sure that we honor the wishes of those we would comfort.